Welcome To The Third Grade: He Likes You, But Hasn't Asked You Out...How To Tell A Boy That You Like Him

Common dilemma: Your friends tell you he likes you. You like him too, but he has never asked you out. You start to wonder if he really does like you. Why wouldn't he? Everybody likes you. You are a well-liked socialite and you exude buttercups and butterflies at all times. Well most of the time. Of course he likes you!

You can tell if a guy likes you if he tells someone. If he speaks highly of you and tells your friends that he thinks "you are cool", he likes you. Extra points apply if he tells your best friend.

If he asks you questions about yourself, he wants to know more about so obviously, he likes you.

AND, if you write a blog and star on a talk show like me and he follows your writing and your episodes well then that is just fabulous, BECAUSE HE REALLY LIKES YOU!

So he likes you, but he hasn't asked you out. What could be the possible reasons and what do you do to change that? Maybe, just maybe, you intimidate him. Maybe he is terrified that you will reject him. This type of guy is so hard to read. This is the guy who has eaten too many bowls of "shyness" with a side of "social awkwardness" for breakfast. In the back of your mind you are thinking that he must be a complete moron if he can't see that you have a major school girl crush on him, but men can't read between the lines. They are wonderful, yet simple creatures and you must SIMPLIFY things for them. To them, just because you have shown them affection on a few occasions at 3 AM doesn't mean that you are into them. Sure they have been "in you", but to them that means that they were just another notch on your belt as opposed to the traditional vice versa scenario. If you have been casually intimate with a guy and you don't cling to him, you are automatically viewed as the "male" in the relationship and men are just not used to that. Although, they had better get used to it, because the women of today are more independent. So what do you do if you like the guy who is scared to tell you that he likes you? YOU HAVE TO TELL HIM! You can't expect him to sense your smoke signals, because unfortunately he just doesn't get it. Also, LADIES: Quit acting like a man! A little sweetness will go a long way. Stroke his ego if you may. As women, we want to be seen as equal to men. We want everybody to go with the flow and the change in times, but we also have to do our part. We have to realize that we are now the ones in power. We have the power, all of it I might add and we have to help these fragile creatures otherwise known as men along. They are not as strong as we think they are. Sure they can change a tire or tote our heavy suitcases, but their egos are fragile and they carry much more emotional baggage than we do. They need more than a little TLC.

If you would rather gargle with bong water than tell him how you feel and all else fails try a little spritz of pheromones. Pheromones work their magic on a subconscious level, and can be more powerful than a person's look or actions.

REMEMBER: ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!

What Women Want ~ Crash Confidence Building For Men

How many men out there would love to be a fly on the wall amongst a room full of women babbling about the way they feel about men?  Hello fly. Welcome to my wall.

Women want to be adored. They want you to turn into a smoldering ray of sunshine when you see them.  The kind of sunshine that projects such a high index of heat to where you can't tell the difference between pearls of sweat and tanning oil.  BTW, all I need is a bottle of Hawaiian Tropic and a cold Abita Light.  Women also want to be craved and found irresistible. We live in a post-sexual revolution era and believe it or not women love to have sex.  A lot.  All the time. Can't get enough.  Get the picture? Women want to be sought out for their company.  When you call us at 3 a.m. you are clearly not interested in our company. Women also want men who are playful and passionate.  Be creative.  PLEASE!

Women also want hot tea and long foot rubs. I prefer alcohol in my tea. Women also want your undivided attention even when you are too busy. Ever heard of sending a text while squatting on the toilet? Women also want balance and we want to re-negotiate the old rules about sex and money because those rules just don't apply today.  They didn't apply yesterday and they won't apply tomorrow either.


Women want a man who is confident. Not an arrogant asshole or a he-man who will threaten to blacken the eyes of every man that glances at you. Just somebody who can deal with it all...Somehow.  He comes in the form of a skilled hunter or a courageous protector.  He needs to have the willingness to face daily struggles and be competent in something, anything, whether it be in his job or in sports.


Although a woman likes to believe a man is willing to deal with a lot of things, what really counts is that he is able to deal with her, especially is she is a Scorpio. We don't want a man who would rather have dental work performed up his ass as opposed to being comfortable with our sexuality, intelligence and emotions.

Although men seem to think that women can't bear to hear the truth about some things, women would rather have a man tell them what is on his mind rather than save it for a rainy day or as backup ammunition for when they get into a fight. Women want men to have the confidence to tell them the truth.  Women want a man who will stand up to them with gloves on and ready to enter the ring.


Bottom line: Confidence with a woman is a social skill which must be learned if what you want is the greatest intimate relationship of your life.  If you would like to enroll in the University of Confidence give me a call.  Financial assistance is available.  You can pay in food and flattery.