Common dilemma: Your friends tell you he likes you. You like him too, but he has never asked you out. You start to wonder if he really does like you. Why wouldn't he? Everybody likes you. You are a well-liked socialite and you exude buttercups and butterflies at all times. Well most of the time. Of course he likes you!
You can tell if a guy likes you if he tells someone. If he speaks highly of you and tells your friends that he thinks "you are cool", he likes you. Extra points apply if he tells your best friend.
If he asks you questions about yourself, he wants to know more about so obviously, he likes you.
AND, if you write a blog and star on a talk show like me and he follows your writing and your episodes well then that is just fabulous, BECAUSE HE REALLY LIKES YOU!
So he likes you, but he hasn't asked you out. What could be the possible reasons and what do you do to change that? Maybe, just maybe, you intimidate him. Maybe he is terrified that you will reject him. This type of guy is so hard to read. This is the guy who has eaten too many bowls of "shyness" with a side of "social awkwardness" for breakfast. In the back of your mind you are thinking that he must be a complete moron if he can't see that you have a major school girl crush on him, but men can't read between the lines. They are wonderful, yet simple creatures and you must SIMPLIFY things for them. To them, just because you have shown them affection on a few occasions at 3 AM doesn't mean that you are into them. Sure they have been "in you", but to them that means that they were just another notch on your belt as opposed to the traditional vice versa scenario. If you have been casually intimate with a guy and you don't cling to him, you are automatically viewed as the "male" in the relationship and men are just not used to that. Although, they had better get used to it, because the women of today are more independent. So what do you do if you like the guy who is scared to tell you that he likes you? YOU HAVE TO TELL HIM! You can't expect him to sense your smoke signals, because unfortunately he just doesn't get it. Also, LADIES: Quit acting like a man! A little sweetness will go a long way. Stroke his ego if you may. As women, we want to be seen as equal to men. We want everybody to go with the flow and the change in times, but we also have to do our part. We have to realize that we are now the ones in power. We have the power, all of it I might add and we have to help these fragile creatures otherwise known as men along. They are not as strong as we think they are. Sure they can change a tire or tote our heavy suitcases, but their egos are fragile and they carry much more emotional baggage than we do. They need more than a little TLC.
If you would rather gargle with bong water than tell him how you feel and all else fails try a little spritz of pheromones. Pheromones work their magic on a subconscious level, and can be more powerful than a person's look or actions.
REMEMBER: ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!
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