There is somebody you drool over at school and they are super popular and you want to tell them you like them but you just can't because you are petrified that they might stone you publicly at the next pep rally. You sit by them in English class because that's your assigned seat and the two of you sit at a table alone and the two of you talk and laugh and it makes the puddle of your infatuation induced slobber resemble the contents of a kiddie pool. They are in a few of your other classes and whenever you get close to them you contract an army of butterflies. Butterflies that don't float, but sting like a bee. Sometimes out of the corner of your eyes you see them staring at you and you feel like you are about to require smelling salts. So what should you do?
There is a Greek proverb that says: “You can’t hide love or a cough.” True story. When you like somebody, you can’t hide it. However, most of us are very well trained in hiding our feelings. In fact, I have made a job out of it and worked many hours of overtime.
When it comes to expressing an interest in someone, we all make excuses. The timing always seems to be off, but the "perfect" time may never come. We would rather shove bamboo up our fingernails then give in. When there is a mutual interest, but neither person speaks up it is like "War of The Roses" getting someone to budge. I refer to it is the pride tug of war.
Think of a 12 step program. The first step is to admit it to yourself that you are interested in someone. Then, you just have to share it with them. Since you have to tell them one way or another, all you have to do is choose which way.
You can always call, blurt it out and then hang up or you can text them. Cuten their name...It implies that you like them. You could express your feelings in the form of word vomit and then claim that you dialed the wrong number. If you know multiple people with the same name then this tactic is actually believable. You can also write them a short note or draw them a picture. If these methods don't get you the result you hoped for, you can always try to escape humiliation, by saying that you were "drinking when you said that or when you went out of your way to make them a hand-crafted gift with thought the size of a third world country put into it". Trust me. It works every single time! You can also wait and make them tell you first. I wouldn't advise this if you are impatient.
If you are spunky and fun like me and don't mind getting busted for disorderly conduct, vandalism or trespassing you might write them a note and tie it to a rock and throw it at their window or you might toilet paper their yard with Valentine's Day themed toilet paper.
TRUST ME. IF YOU DON'T TELL THEM YOU WILL REGRET IT FOREVER and as Prince said in "Let's Go Crazy" circa 1984, it means forever and that's a mighty long time! Odds are, if they talk to you, it's because they want to, and if they are staring, it's because they like what they see when they look at you. The worst that can happen...They like you as a friend and while it hurts, you still get to be friends, right? BUT they could really like you and turn out to be the person that you hide behind that white picket fence with! If you don't take that leap of faith then you will never forget the moment that you knew you should have told them.
Spit it out! You won't look desperate if you tell someone you like them. You will only look stupid if they end up with somebody else who is less attractive than you and not as cool as you. While in the back of your mind you will be thinking that they could have had a better and bigger bag of chips in you, you are the one who didn't put them on the shelf for them to open.
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